The 90-10 principle

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*The principle of 90/10*

_(by Stephen Covey)_

It's all about how to react to a situation?

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_What is this principle?_

_10% of life is made up of what happens to you_

_90% of life is decided by how you react_

_What does this mean?_

_We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us_

*but over the balance 90%, it is up to us, as to how to react.*

* example*

_You are eating breakfast with your family_

_Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt_

_You have no control over what just happened_

_What happens next will be determined by how you react_

_scenario A:- You curse_

_You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over_

_She breaks down in tears_

_After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table._

_A short verbal battle follows_

_You storm upstairs and change your shirt_

_Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and could not get ready for school_

_She misses the bus_

_Your spouse must leave immediately for work_

_You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school_

_Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit_

_After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school_

_Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye_

_After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase_

_Your day has started terrible_

_As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse_

_You look forward to coming home_

_When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter because of how you reacted in the morning.

Was the*bad day caused by:-

A)  coffee spill
B)   your daughter
C)   the policeman
D)   your reaction

_The answer is “D"_

_You had no control over what happened with the coffee_

_How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day_

*Here is what could have happened*

Scenario B:- Coffee splashes over you_

_Your daughter is about to cry_

_You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time"_

_Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs_

_After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus_

_She turns and waves_

_You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff_

_Your boss comments on how good the day you are having_

*Notice the difference*?

_Two different scenarios_

_Both started the same_

_Both ended different_

*Why?*

*Because of how you REACTED*

_You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens_

_The other 90% was determined by your reaction

HOW?…

_You cannot control a red light but you can control your reaction.

*Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle*

_If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge_

_Let the attack roll off like water on glass_

_You don't have to let the negative comment affect you_

_React properly and it will not ruin your day_

_A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend or dear one /being fired/getting stressed out etc_

_How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic_

_Do you lose your temper?_

_Pound on the steering wheel?_

_Do you curse?_

_Does your blood pressure skyrocket?_

_Do you try and bump them?_

_WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?_

*Why let the cars ruin your drive?*

_Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it_

*You are told you lost your job*

_Why lose sleep and get irritated?_

*It will work out*

_Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job_

_The plane is late;
it is going to mangle your schedule for the day_

_Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant?_

_She has no control over what is going on_

_Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger_

*Why get stressed out?*

_It will just make things worse_

*Now you know the 90-10 principle*

_Apply it and you will be amazed at the results_

*You will lose nothing if you try it*

*The 90-10 principle is incredible*

_Very few know and apply this principle._

*The result?*

_Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress.

Do u want to be 1 of them?